Mothers it’s time to stay in your lane

Where do mothers learn to love, care and protect their children? They don’t. It’s in their DNA.

That's why, even when the children are grown, mothers keep a watchful eye, ready to step in at a moment’s notice. 

Here’s where it gets tricky; when children are little the mother is in the driver's seat. Every turn is her responsibility, feeding, teaching, protecting. She poured herself into the job and because of that her children grew up with the tools to steer their own lives.

Here's The Trouble
The trouble is, many mothers keep driving like nothing has changed, and yet it has. The child is now grown and in their own car, their own lane and every time a mother swerves over to grab the wheel, there’s a collision.

Marie's Story 
Marie came to see me because of physical pain. While it’s common for mothers of adult children to be over protective and anxious, for Marie that worry was showing up as real physical symptoms. Using muscle testing we uncovered the root cause and to her surprise, it wasn’t physical at all. It was emotional.
 

Smart Body 
Her body revealed the pain was tied to worry about her son, who she believed was stuck in life. She had been swerving into his lane, trying to steer for him. Instead of helping, it left her frustrated and her son more distant, to the point he no longer returned her phone calls. Heartbreaking.

Muscle testing showed Marie’s body exactly which techniques from energy kinesiology would release the tension she was carrying. The shift was immediate. Her eyes widened and she said, 

“Oh… he’s got this. He’s his own man!” 

Relief and calm washed over her. She realized her son had his own lane, his own tools, his own steering wheel. Her job wasn’t to keep grabbing for it, it was to stay in her lane, offering love and support from the 'side of the road', when he asked for help.

As she left, she laughed through her tears: 
“I don’t cry! I can’t believe you made me cry, but I feel so much lighter!”

Later she wrote:
“I am feeling amazing about my son and definitely free of concern. My hip is great too!” 

Marie Isn't Alone 
Many mothers get caught in the same cycle, trying to prevent their children from making mistakes. But here’s the truth: mistakes are how we all learn. 

Think back, how did learning happen when you were younger? Chances are, not because a parent hovered over every turn. If anything, being “helicoptered” probably felt stifling.

It's the same for today’s adult children. What they need is space, the freedom to stumble, to get back up, and to grow stronger for it. Mothers can support and love them without meddling or trying to do it for them.
 

The Heart of It
The love of a mother never ends, but the role does change. Staying in her own lane doesn’t mean abandoning her children. It means trusting the tools she gave them long ago and respecting their independence. That’s where love and respect grows, for both mother and child.

Your Turn 
Are you in your own lane or still drifting into your child’s?
If you’re ready to feel like Marie, let’s talk. Book a free 20-minute consultation
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