Have you ever idolized someone?

Have you ever idolized someone as your hero? We admire others, but why do we do that? Is it their qualities we want to nurture in ourselves?

Ellie’s story

Ellie was a client who came to me for an energy kinesiology session. As we talked, she was effusive about her deep admiration for her mentor. She spoke eloquently about his attributes, how she was looking forward to taking even more of his courses and joining the destination retreats he hosted.

“This is going to wipe out my life savings,” she confided.

😳😳😳

Suddenly in my mind her relationship with her hero flipped from “healthy, helpful person in her life” to “dangerously unhealthy!”

When I asked her if she had him on a pedestal, she said, "Oh, yes, I do… and yet… I’d never thought of it like that before.”

I then asked her to imagine herself standing next to him. I paused while she closed her eyes and created a mental picture.

Then I asked her, "how does it feel?” And she said, “I feel so much smaller than him, insignificant, really. He is radiant and I am not.”

Pattern of belief

In our session, we discovered Ellie's lifelong pattern of putting others on pedestals while feeling inadequate.

With energy kinesiology, we focused on the goal:

"I put myself first."

Initially, it felt foreign and frightening to her.

Your body knows!

Throughout the session we used muscle testing to find out how her body could undo this old negative pattern of belief. It’s amazing to witness the body’s ability to unravel deep-seated patterns of behavior so swiftly.

Tall and radiant

During the session, Ellie transformed. She went from “never feeling good enough” to when I asked her again to picture herself standing next to her hero, this time she said:

“I am as tall as he is, and feel just as radiant as him!” Then she said,“ I put myself first.” And she was brimming with her own self-confidence!

Aha moment

Ellie realized she could see her hero in a new light without traveling or taking all of his courses. She embraced her self-worth, recognizing her power to shine as brightly as those she admired.

Make it happen

Are you ready to break free from old patterns and prioritize yourself? Reflect on who you've put on an unhealthy pedestal. Your path to shining just as brightly starts with a laser focused energy kinesiology session.

Contact me to make it happen! 🌟

Epilogue

In a follow up with Ellie six months later, she shared this with me:

“That session changed something permanently in my body.

I’m still very much plugged into his community and I’m part of a group in the Bay Area that all follow his work.

I canceled going to Cancun, of course I would’ve loved to have gone, but I just don’t HAVE to go anymore. I still find his work profound and very much to my liking, but I don’t NEED him anymore.

I’m still standing tall!

What happened in the session is so hard to put into words… I think the best I can say is, you really got to the core in that session.”

I told her, I was just the interpreter. Her body held the answer and was just waiting to be asked.

Wondering if an energy kinesiology session could provide a breakthrough for you too?

Let’s find out!

Masquerading Emotions

Dana, a young college student came to see me with unexplained back pain. As I began my assessment, we tried to pinpoint when it started. Dana explained it had been so long, she couldn’t remember a time she did not have this pain.

While things like yoga, exercise and chiropractic provided temporary relief, it would always come back.

Ask, listen and deliver

In my years of working with clients, what I’ve witnessed over and over again is that our bodies are holding the vital information we need in order to heal.

As an energy kinesiology practitioner, my role is to ask the body what it wants, listen, and give it what it asks for.

The body has proved over and over again that it truly knows best how to heal itself and needs only to be asked.

Four questions

Dana and I did exactly that. Using muscle testing, I “asked” her body four questions. In doing so, we ascertained in which of the four realms the issue was:

• physical

• emotional

• nutritional

• energetic

In Dana’s case, we found the origin of her back pain was in the emotional realm. It stemmed from an incident in her childhood when she’d been bullied at school.

How Emotion manifested physically

Dana’s emotional pain had manifested physically in her back. While yoga and chiropractic provided temporary relief, because the physical body was not the root of her pain, it always returned. When muscle testing revealed that the bullying was emotional pain that had manifested physically in her back, we listened and delivered the techniques her body asked for. The result? She released the trauma she had been storing in her body and she could finally experience full relief!

Epilogue: it’s been 8 years and Dana is STILL pain-free 🤸🏽‍♂️

Dana checked in with me two weeks later and she reported with delight and amazement she was still pain free. Now it’s been 8 years and unlike the temporary fixes, this time, the pain has not returned.

Are you ready to have a conversation with your body?

Are you or a loved one experiencing unexplained pain or lingering discomfort from past injuries or trauma?

“Asking” the body is a direct way to tap into how it wants to be treated and from there we can access your body’s innate healing capabilities.

Dana’s results were profound but I have seen this kind of transformation with other clients too. (Check out Maureen’s story for another example.) At the end of the day it’s always up to the body to find a way through. My role is to do my very best to help navigate the person's journey to better health. Curious if this could work for you? Sign up for a complimentary consultation:

I’m here to help you ask your body and to listen to the vital information it holds to fast track to feeling better.

Do you know best?

If our body can heal physical wounds doesn’t it make sense that it can heal emotional wounds too?

It’s a miracle!

When you cut or bruise yourself, do you tell your body how to heal the cut or bruise? Imagine if you actually had to initiate your body’s healing. It may sound something like this:

“Body, send some white blood cells there, send some extra collagen, send some inflammation to get that nasty cut to heal.”

But as we know, you have never had to say that! Your body just knows what to do, and the healing process begins automatically.

But what about emotional wounds? These can be just as real and impactful as physical injuries, yet we often struggle to heal them because we rely too heavily on our minds.

In a breathwork circle, you have the opportunity to take a break from overthinking and let your breath guide the healing process. Just like your body knows how to heal physical wounds, your breath knows how to heal emotional ones.

In a breathwork circle you are afforded a well deserved break from thinking about how to solve the problem. You get to trust and focus on the breath. Just like the switch on your smartphone, you put the mind on “silent mode” as it has nothing to control, solve, fix or change. It’s simply present.

Do you know best?

So why haven't we tapped into this power sooner? Perhaps it's because we've been conditioned to believe that “I know best!” Our minds are the ultimate problem solvers, right? Well, not always! Let’s be honest, if our minds knew how to do what the breath does--release and heal emotions, dissolve beliefs, recalibrate the nervous system and raise the body’s vibrational frequency--wouldn’t the mind have done so by now?! Wouldn’t that have been in the curriculum taught at schools, colleges and universities?

Let’s leave the mind to what it does best

The mind is brilliant at research, figuring out timetables, following directions, strategizing, and getting us to the moon!

Here’s what Max texted after a breathwork circle:

“I feel blessed and full of conviction.

This Breathwork put me in the happiest state of mind I have ever been in.

Most powerful for me yet.

That you so much. You really changed my life.”

My text response:

"Good for you... it’s YOU and your breath that changed your life!"

I look forward to seeing you soon!

Do you know who your silent healer is?

Do you tend to make things harder than they need to be?

Picture this: reaching the moon. It sounds incredibly challenging, doesn't it? The time, effort, and money required would (seemingly) be astronomical! 🚀

Now, imagine something different—holding the moon right in your hand. Easy, right?

We often associate healing with immense effort, as daunting as reaching the moon. What if healing could be as effortless as holding the moon in your hand?

That's the magic of breathwork. It's your silent healer, giving your racing thoughts a break and bringing your breath to the forefront. Instead of relying on words to analyze and mend, it taps into the wisdom of the breath to mend.

Your breath has been your faithful companion from the moment you were born. It's witnessed every pain, every hurt, and every memory etched in your body and mind. When you finally grant it the chance to unravel, realign, and heal, it works wonders. It knows where the hurts are hidden, and it knows exactly how to heal them—no textbooks or YouTube videos needed!

So, are you ready to make things easier for yourself? Are you ready to leave words behind for just an hour and let your breath work its magic? 🌬️

TMT (Text Message Testimonial):

"It was an amazing experience.

I’m usually too cerebral, but I found it fascinating.

I felt energized and less anxious.

It's making a difference!" 👍

What’s in your box 📦

Do you enjoy problem solving at work?

I love it! It's a mixture of challenging, rewarding, and…. magic.

I ask my energy kinesiology clients to fill out an intake form before the first appointment and often they share that at some point in their lives, they were “impacted.” Whether it was a difficult childhood, their parents' divorce, their own divorce, an accident, sexual abuse, or another form of trauma, it left an indelible mark.

Often they have done lots of work on themselves to remove that mark.

Still I hear:

“I have this recurring back pain and I’m having a flare up.”

Or, “I don’t know what else to do for my digestion! l've cut out gluten and dairy and I’m still having issues.”

Or, “I suffer from allergies but I get some relief from over the counter remedies.” (Which are good enough as bandaids.)

Body talk🤸🏻‍♀️

Usually there’s no talk of the “impact” that they had mentioned in the intake form.

With my problem solving (aka detective) hat on, I do what perhaps nobody has done before, l ASK THEIR BODY, about their back pain, digestion, allergies, etc.

They’re body is right, the issues they walked in the door with are showing up, BUT they are not priority, according to their body.

Remembering

It doesn’t take more than a couple of direct questions to their bodies to land at the time of their “impact” that had a sledge hammer effect on their nervous system, and in the name of safety their nervous system halted their body at that moment in time.

Hard work

When they recall their “impact,” they often say something like, “I’ve been working on that for 30 years, I’ve done lots of healing work around it.” And yet, when I muscle test their body about the issue it is still exhibiting stress, and it shows as their priority.

The mind

What I believe is that they’ve taken the experience and their mind has thought it through. It has intellectualized it and given very good reasons why that person behaved the way they did or why that situation happened the way it happened.

The box 📦

Their intellect then puts the experiences in a box in an attempt to relocate it; keeping it at arm’s distance. Thankfully often these high achievers are able to manage their lives knowing that that experience is safely in a box and can’t hurt them again. They have good control and can explain the trauma very easily. BUT, un-be-knownst to them, every decision that they’re making in their lives is skewed on the baseline that’s sitting in their box…that “abuse, divorce, accident, etc.”

While the experience is remembered albeit “boxed up” in their mind, it’s also remembered by their back, stomach, display of allergies or debilitating migraines and, unfortunately, that means, it is still influencing their bodies.

Solution time

The next step is to ASK how their body wants to kickstart their halted nervous system by letting go at the body level where the blow is still manifested physically.

In the session we ASK which techniques will guide them back to safety, enabling their body to integrate the “impact” from many years ago.

Results

As a result their box vanishes and the presenting symptoms often melt away immediately or over several weeks, leaving them with a feeling of less or no pain and a sense of freedom that they can’t remember having. That’s magic!

Our minds can’t do everything!

I know that if their mind, which is brilliant at solving problems at work, could have solved their “impact,” it would have done so long ago, right?!

Problem solving ✅

My superpower is ASKING your body questions, and LISTENING to its answers to reset and calm your nervous system which in-turn lightens up that indelible mark.

What people are saying after working with me:

“I can’t thank you enough. Today was really eye opening to me. I didn’t know all that stuff was going to come up, but deep down I knew that these were the things holding me back.”

(Repressed trauma: Sexual abuse. Symptom: Back pain)

“I was so shocked, I really had no idea that my digestion had anything to do with my mother, but it makes sense since I can’t remember a time I didn’t have an issue with my digestion … and as I told you, I never felt loved by my mother. I can’t believe how different and relieved I feel!”

Do you have repressed trauma locked in a 📦 box? Please contact me for a complimentary consultation.

Who (or what) has meddled with your mind?

Teachers, parents, partners, siblings, politicians, social media, movies, books, alcohol, drugs, colleagues, religion….

All these outside influences can meddle with your mind to the detriment of your well being.

Who has meddled with your breath?

Nobody and nothing can meddle with your breath...your breath is pure!

Just like a stroll through a beautiful walled garden, breathwork offers a sanctuary.

At the entrance to the garden, we check those meddling influences at the gate and turn inward to our pure breath.

In the Breathwork circles we breathe in a conscious, continuous connected pattern of breath. Breathing this way allows our breath to take center stage, ushering in peace, harmony and even bliss.

If you’ve been to a Virtual Breathwork Circle (VBC) before, you may recall that I ask you to share a word to describe how you felt after the session.

Here are some of the responses I received after a recent VBC:

gentle

lightness

grounded

peaceful

floating

restful

still

recalibrated

optimistic

clarity

traveling

depth

solutions

Word of the year

Now is the perfect time to choose your word for the year.

I’ve tucked the word patience into my wallet as my word for this year.

It's also on a post-it on my bathroom mirror, and for good measure, there’s one taped to my computer too!

I want to feel, think and breathe in and out patience this year!

If you were to choose just one word to be your companion and capture how you want to feel and show up this year (especially when you notice the meddlers interfering) what word would that be?

Bring your word with you into a Virtual Breathwork Circle!

Share it with me and I’ll be sure to mention it when you’re in the Circle.

Be bothered!

It was January of this year and a small group of us were climbing the mountain, An Caisteal (elevation 3,264 feet), in Crainlarich, Scotland. The pair of gloves 🧤 I was wearing were no match for the biting cold wind on the hillside that day and my hands were frozen to the point of pain.

And yet, despite my obvious discomfort, I had resigned myself to the situation and just pressed on.

Earlier in the week, my sister Skye had been telling me about an experience she’d had and the life lesson she learned from it: “be bothered, when it comes to taking care of yourself.” 

Eventually, on the descent I heard Skye’s words echoing in my head, I finally stopped in my tracks, put my hiking poles down, dug my feet into the earth and slung off my backpack. I reached into the bottom of my pack, and pulled out a very serious pair of mittens; ones much better suited to the bitterly cold weather.

I put them on right away and attempted to wiggle my fingers, they were frozen, I could barely move them.  

Frenetic thoughts filled my head:

“Have I permanently damaged my fingers?!”
“Why did I have the fear of inconveniencing others, to my own detriment? If it had been somebody else, wouldn’t I have wanted them to STOP and put on the right mittens? Of course I would!”
“Why was I so willing to make myself a low priority?”
 
I didn’t come up with any good answers, but thankfully a feeling of calm replaced those intrusive thoughts. I was grateful that I had taken care of myself by heeding Skye’s words: “be bothered.”

This experience was a humbling reminder for me that all of us are susceptible in varying degrees to postponing what’s best for us. 

I’m wondering if you’ve been stubborn like me and not been bothered, by relegating yourself to “low priority?”

Here’s a question:

What factors do you think may be contributing to your health challenges? (e.g. injury, diet, lifestyle, family history, relationships, stress, illness, job, finances, drug or alcohol use, etc.) Rank in order: 1, 2, 3.
 
Email me for a 20 minute free consultation and tell me your top 3 factors. I love talking about this stuff.

This question is actually taken from my intake form that I review with clients before their Energy Kinesiology session. I ask this because I believe perfect health is your birthright and that’s what I’m aiming for in our session.

Yes, it’s a lofty aim to change your contributing factors; too lofty for me, but not too lofty for your body, your body has the answers and the solutions.

My superpower is two fold: knowing which questions to ask your body, and then following through with the solution your body is seeking.

Let me know, to see if it’s something I can help you with.

Oh yes, and, while it took a good two hours for my hands to warm up again, you’ll be pleased to know there was no lasting damage. 🙌

Perhaps this story is relevant to someone you know who could benefit?
Please share this with them.
(Sessions with me can be in person or via Zoom.)

Toxic parent? Jonathan’s journey

Jonathan came to me for an energy kinesiology session. During our conversation, I learned he had successfully helped six different companies across various industries with mergers and acquisitions. Feeling accomplished with what he had done for others, he was now ready to start his own business.

Jonathan was very capable and educated. There was no visible obstacle standing in his way. And yet something was holding him back.

So without an obvious blockage he could identify, I led the conversation wherein we asked his body.

You see, your body has been with you for every single step you’ve taken in your life and it KNOWS EVERYTHING. So when the thinking mind cannot offer an answer, we ask the body.

In muscle testing Jonathan‘s body we found out that in his adolescent years, something had happened that was influencing why he couldn’t start his business.

I asked him what happened in his early teen years.

He recalled that during the school holidays his father believed that his son should work. His father gave him the job of building a fence around their property. A project that would take several weeks. With no guidance, Jonathan toiled alone.

Three weeks later, when his father came to inspect his work, he told him it was all wrong, and that he needed to begin again.

As you can imagine, Jonathan felt terrible frustration, a sense of hopelessness, and his self confidence was shattered. 

Unfortunately, the following year his father gave him another lofty project and did exactly the same thing.

So that I could gauge our progress during the session, I asked Jonathan on a scale from 1 to 10, with 10 being complete forgiveness/acceptance, what were his feelings about his father now, recalling these events from his youth. He retorted: “ NO forgiveness and minus 19!”

With the correlation between his inability to start his own company and his jumbled emotions for his father made clear, we moved forward with the session. Our goal now was to find some level of release or acceptance (which he warned me was impossible!)

It is reasonable under the circumstances that his thinking mind would not want to let go of or accept his past. After all, his father had been cruel. The trouble is that as an adult he was still being held captive by emotional wounds inflicted by his father decades ago. This adolescent trauma was stuck in his body and was negatively affecting his present life.

In my experience every “body” has a unique and clear path to unraveling their “invisible obstacles.” The body is just waiting to be asked.

By asking his body through muscle testing we found and highlighted his negative beliefs and stuck emotions and we continued to muscle test to find the exact reprogramming, and the solution, that would release them.

At the end of the session, I returned to the question: “on a scale from 1 to 10 how much do you forgive your father?”

Shaking his head in disbelief with a big smile on his face, he said, “I forgive him a 10!”

Epilogue

Six years have passed since our session so I reached out to Jonathan recently to fact check this testimonial.

Recalling that at the start of our session, when I had asked to quantify his feelings about his father, Jonathan's response was “NO forgiveness and minus 19!” 

I asked for an update, how did he feel today, six years later? He said:

“I think I am more in the acceptance phase…not that I harbor any ill feelings toward him, I simply do not feel anything at all.”

Then I asked about his dream to be an entrepreneur, did he move forward after our session? He replied:

“I am now in business with my son and we are on iteration number four. It has been a long haul and very enlightening from a personal growth perspective.”

 

Can Energy Kinesiology help you?

The answer is YES if like Jonathan you have ambitions, but are feeling stuck or unable to move forward.

With Energy Kinesiology we can pinpoint the root cause of what’s holding you back and release it. Letting go of stuck energy restores balance from within so you can move forward!

Start with a complimentary consultation to see if kinesiology Energy Kinesiology might be the answer for you.